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The Difference Between Self-Love and Self-Care.


Okay lovelies. We need to discuss the difference between self-care and self-love.

There is a big difference between letting yourself have a bubble bath at the end of the week to being truly and 100% happy with yourself.

Self-love and self-care are vital to your success as an entrepreneur. I've gone from in three or four years a place where I didn't realise that I didn't love myself at all. I didn't take care of myself. There was no self-care, there was no self-love. To a place now where I feel good, I'm very happy with myself and my life and my business which I adore. My clients are amazing and I still have my bubble baths.

But there's a big difference between the self-care side and self-love. So let's talk about what self-love really looks like. I'm going to give you a couple of little easy exercises that you can do to start really nurturing yourself from your soul. Self-love is about acceptance. Acceptance of who you are, how you're showing up, and the person you want to become. So a little exercise I want to give you today is a little bit of mirror work. I want you to look in the mirror, look in your eyes and say, I love you.

How does that feel? If you're like, this lady is crazy, why is she asking me to look in the mirror? I want you to try it. I want you to say I love you, and then afterwards I want you to say, I am enough.

Now I am here for you 100%. If you want to hit me up in the DM's on Instagram and have a conversation about this, you can do because this is really powerful.

The first time I did this, I was working with a coach and she said, go and do this, look in a mirror. I thought she was crazy. I cried my eyes out. I felt so stupid. I didn't know where to look. Just looking at myself straight in the eyes was really difficult because all that came up was a load of judgements about my level of success, about how I looked and how I was showing up. So much negativity came up when I did this the first time. So I really want you to lean into this.

For some of you, you might be totally fine with this and really happy with yourself. Maybe you've been doing mirror work for years. But if this is new to you, ease yourself into it. Self-love is your own journey and so just start with a little bit of mirror work and just say those two phrases, I love you and I am enough. That’s now starting down a deeper route of taking care of yourself and nurturing yourself from within, and I can help you more with that if this is something you want to look into. But the other side of taking care of yourself is the self-care. If you are working really hard at your business, which I know you are, you're putting in all the effort, you're doing all the things needed, you need to take some time for yourself. Whether that might be a bubble bath, maybe that's going out with friends, maybe that's checking into a spa every now and then.

Or maybe it's just giving yourself a couple of days off. Isn't that a novel idea? Giving yourself some time off as an entrepreneur.

Whatever that looks like for you, that's self-care. But please make sure you understand that the two things are very different. Self-love and self-care are not the same thing. Self-care you can do at any point.

I have so many clients that say they are going to give them self some time out at the weekend and they do, and then they feel really guilty about it for the whole week afterwards because they could have done so much more.  This is because they don't truly love themselves enough to accept that they need that time to have a break.

So self-care and self-love are two very different things. This video is just scraping the surface. I will be having a far more in depth conversation about this on my podcast. But I would love to hear from you.

If you do the mirror work exercise, please let me know. Send me a DM on Instagram and let me know how you found it. Let's have a conversation


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